In my late forties, I lost three close friends. Two who had never smoked died of lung cancer and a third died while awaiting a liver transplant.  All were unspeakably sad losses.

But in one’s eighties, losing friends (and family) is inevitable. That doesn’t make it any easier.  It can be especially difficult when you are losing someone with whom you have unresolved issues.

That’s where I think hospice offers help.  Here is its recommendation for making difficult end-of-life conversations a little easier. 

First, communicate “I love you.”

Second convey gratitude, “Thank you.”

Third, “I forgive you,” and fourth…

“Do you forgive me?”