When you join the elder generation, it’s important that you have younger friends so that with life’s inevitable losses, you can remain an active social being.

If our friends were like a cake, the flour would be our generation, the basic ingredient of our friendships.  The sugar would be our children’s generation.  By now, they get it about leading responsible lives, and they begin to give back, e.g., who doesn’t turn to the next generation for help with social media? 

Eggs add richness and structure—activities and interests are a requirement for successful aging. Finally, flavoring is supplied by the youngest generation—even strangers’ babies make me smile, so adorable and so easy to love.

The frosting would be whatever else makes you happy— a great book, spring, a special meal.

In an ideal world you could have your cake and eat it too.

From time to time I try to get rid of “stuff" to make life easier for my children who will have to go through it someday.

Take the four faded yellow pad pages I came across yesterday. It was a list of day-by-day to-do’s for our baby-sitter while Peter and I were away for a week—in 1978! 

The boys were five and seven. The list included things like who should wear sneakers to school because of gym class.  I asked that Seth be picked up on the day he had an after-school activity because “I don’t like him to walk home too close to dark”. There were phone numbers of doctors and neighbors.  (No area codes were necessary on the phone list!)

I noted that Jeremy would need help getting dressed for school. One of the most amusing reminders was that the only vegetable Jeremy would eat was baked beans. Also noted was that Jeremy wouldn’t eat spaghetti and that he should have cereal for dinner that night.

Now-a-days, Jeremy never stops eating.  He eats everything.  Yet there is not an ounce of fat on him.  Seth isn’t heavy either although he eats street food all over the world. 

It’s only four yellowed, yellow pages paper clipped together...

The kids can throw it away.

Inflation is with us and shows no signs of abating.  I drive by gas stations, agog at the prices.  When a package of my favorite potato chips went from $2.99 to $3.29 a few months ago, I accepted that.  I get it that interest rates are rising, and mortgages are more expensive.  My grocery bill for one person now looks like my old grocery bills for both of us.

But over these recent months, my one “cannot-live-without” treat had happily stayed the same price.  Until Saturday.

Trader Joe’s coffee ice cream went from $3.99 to $4.50 per quart!

Will I eat less coffee ice cream?  Never!

In January 2008, the “70-something blog” published its first post. Last Sunday, the (now) “80-something blog” published its 1500^th entry. That’s a big number.

Nobody is more surprised by this than I am. In 2008, I would never have thought “Brush your teeth twice a day; write a blog post twice a week” would still be my modus operandi in 2022.

Many thanks to my loyal readers. 

It’s been seven months since Peter died.  I will never stop missing him.

But I’ve stopped feeling sad every day at dinner time.  And some mornings I don’t reach over to the empty side of the bed when I wake up.

In the past week, I’ve had two visitors who hadn’t seen me in six months.  They both said I looked much better than the last time they were here.  (Of course, they hadn’t told me how awful I looked in the first place.)

I will be forever grateful for my years with Peter, but there are still people to see, places to go, and a life to live. 

I’ve turned a corner.

I woke up one morning last week and reached for my new remote control to raise the shades in my fourth-floor bedroom.  The window framed a red/orange sunrise, a sky on fire as far as I could see.  William Turner himself could not have painted a more beautiful landscape. It didn’t last long enough for me to get my camera, so you will have to take my word for it. Breath-taking.

Two hours later, I strolled the last couple of blocks home from my power walk.  I stopped at every flowering tree, at every house’s garden. A couple of Canadian geese were also looking.

It was a celebration of May, and I drank in every second of it.

My Learning-in-Retirement classes went onto Zoom twenty-six months ago when Covid became an unwelcome part of our lives.  It was an adjustment to see only the upper halves of my peers on a computer screen. I also missed the before-and-after class socializing.

On Friday, there was an in-person-end-of-the-year picnic.  I had looked forward to seeing my former “classmates” and meeting the instructors of the classes I attended via Zoom.

It was great to see those I knew, to introduce myself to one of my “teachers” and some classmates from Zoom.  All the people I had known before looked different.  It occurred to me that everyone had aged a bit over the pandemic.

Except me.

A year ago, Peter and I were eyeing a painting in the window of an artist’s studio.  I contacted the artist to ask when we could see it up close, but before that happened, Peter suffered a stroke, and we never followed up. 

A year later, almost to the day, I bought two paintings from that artist.  It was a bittersweet moment, and I said, “I wish Peter were here to see these.”  The artist replied, “He is because you said his name.”

The next day, I walked to Trader Joe’s with a friend.  We each bought a few things, and she engaged the cashier in conversation.  “Did they give you that shirt?” she asked the pleasant young man in a flowery Trader Joe’s shirt. “Yes, he replied as he continued to ring up her order.”  She continued, “You have a great smile.”  Clearly, they were both enjoying a bit of a harmless flirtation. 

The last thing in her cart was a bouquet of flowers.  “I’m not going to charge you for these flowers, he said. You made my day.”

With so much to worry about these days, moments like these are priceless.

The first female U.S. Secretary of State, Madeleine Albright, passed away on March 23^rd at age eighty-four.  She came to the U.S. as a Czech refugee at age eleven.  An extraordinary woman and an inspiration, she was celebrated by many dignitaries in a memorial service last week.

While I don’t aspire to be Secretary of State, I do have my own role model for successful aging. Until she passed away at age ninety-nine about a year ago, this extraordinary mother of a friend never complained.  She was cheerful and positive despite having lost one son to AIDS and seeing a second son diagnosed with early Parkinson’s Disease.

She had friends of all ages, including me.  For some reason, she would send Peter and me a gift Thanksgiving package every year. One time, she did allow me to take her to lunch.

I miss my role model.   

Madeleine Albright, the first female U.S. Secretary of State, passed away on March 23^rd at age eighty-four.  She came to the U.S. as a Czech refugee at age eleven.  An extraordinary woman and an inspiration, she was celebrated by many dignitaries in a memorial service last week.

While I don’t aspire to be Secretary of State, I do have my own role model for successful aging. Until she passed away at age ninety-nine about a year ago, this extraordinary mother of a friend never complained.  She was cheerful and positive despite having lost one son to AIDS and having a second son diagnosed with early Parkinson’s Disease.

She had friends of all ages, including me.  For some reason, she would send Peter and me a gift Thanksgiving package every year. One time, she did allow me to take her to lunch.

I miss my role model.