“Today is my last day as a 70-something,” a friend emailed. “I thought you might have some words of wisdom to share with me.”
“Don’t do it,” I wanted to reply.
Having now been an octogenarian for a year, however, I do have a few thoughts.
*Be grateful that you are still around. Remember that many others haven’t shared your luck.
*Accept that eighty is different. No matter how good things have been so far, they'll be less good in the coming decade.
*Accept that (1) It takes longer to do things (2) your opinion may be sought less often and (3) the person you see in the mirror is really you.
*Seek joy in new places.
*Remember that it’s all about managing expectations. To quote Aunt Grace in Mary Pipher’s book, Women Rowing North, “I get what I want… but I know what to want.”
*Finally, don’t try to recreate your old life. That was then and this is now.