Forty-six years into it, I’m still working on being a good mother. I’ve had a lot of jobs over my (blessedly) long life, but being a mother is the hardest. It’s also the most important.
Here are some of the lessons I have learned.
- There is no perfect mother.
- There is no perfect child.
- You can still aspire to being either (1) or (2).
- Have important (but easy) rules while they grow up, like
- Two cookies at lunch; three cookies at dinner.
- Soft drinks only on the weekends (except at friends’ houses)
- Limited TV on school nights. (If my children were young now, it would be “No phones at the dinner table and no phones in the bedroom overnight.”)
- “Ask your father.” doesn’t work.
- Two serious sports a year is enough.
- And once they are grown up
- Don’t call them. Wait for them to call you.
- Unconditionally love whoever loves them.
- Be careful what you ask.
- Manage your expectations.
If you are lucky you will eventually be rewarded with grandchildren. They’re a lot easier.
Happy Mother's Day