What Happened to Purpose?
February 21, 2016
We’ve been away from winter for more than six weeks. As I write this, the temperature at home is eight degrees above zero. If I were there, my fingertips and toes would be without feeling, white from the cold and Raynaud’s disease. I would turn the heat up higher, but sitting near the windows, I would still be cold. With each new snowfall, I would be concerned about slipping on the ice. Not a pretty picture.
Here, the sky is blue most of the days and is a palette of oranges, pinks and purples when the sun goes down (much later than it does at home). We walk the beach every day and watch the shorebirds and the pelicans, hawks and buzzards sweeping across the horizon. It’s breathtaking.
Our days are our own. We set no alarm clock. We go to the gym. We go to our movie class. We see old friends, and we make new friends. We go to theater, movies, ballet, opera and art galleries.
But something is missing--I think it’s “purpose.”
When I retired two-plus years ago, I mourned the loss of my place in the community I loved. It took a while for me to find the right mix of volunteering, learning, and working, but when I did, I found “purpose.”
For me, it’s an essential ingredient that has gone missing here in the Florida sun.
I think we all need to feel useful in some small way when we retire. Sounds like you are on a lovely vacation there..but it is time to come home again.. :)
Posted by: Carol | February 22, 2016 at 03:50 AM
Thank you for this. You described perfectly what I have been feeling in Arizona but have been unable to articulate. It helps a great deal to have my feelings spoken and validated.
Posted by: Alice Benson | February 22, 2016 at 10:32 AM
Well, Judy, you will have plenty of time to make up for your lack of purpose when you return home. In the days when I traveled, I always felt refreshed and renewed the minute my feet touched the tarmac at home! Then I could really get down to fulfilling my "purpose"!
Posted by: Still the Lucky Few | February 22, 2016 at 10:42 AM
That's a nice challenge - Purpose in the Sun. I'm lucky to have sun, children and grandchildren all zero to 3 blocks from me and my Purpose[s]. The sun sounds like it has enough advantages to make it worth finding some purposes there - or on your computer?? Warm wishes
Posted by: Helen Hansma | February 22, 2016 at 04:27 PM