On June 24th, Dzhokhar Tsarnaev was sentenced to death for his role in the 2013 Boston Marathon bombing that killed three people and injured 264 more. At his sentencing, some of his victims publicly forgave him.
A week earlier, Dylann Roof murdered nine parishioners at the Emmanuel AME Church in Charleston, South Carolina after they had welcomed him to their bible study group.
The relatives of some of his victims forgave him too.
What does it mean to forgive?
It means “to stop feeling anger toward someone who has done something wrong; to give up resentment or revengeful feelings whether or not it is deserved”.
It does not mean forgetting or condoning what was done or saying that the perpetrator should not be held legally responsible.
There are some who say that staying angry and unforgiving can be harder on the done-to than on the doer and that forgiving frees you from your anger and allows you to move on.
There are many transgressions that I could forgive. But not these.