In The New York Times recently, Pamela Druckerman, author of Bringing up Bébé, shared some lessons she has learned in her 40’s. Here's what it looks like at 70-something.
In your 40’s: Eight hours of continuous unmedicated sleep is one of life’s great pleasures.
In your 70’s: Never going to happen.
In your 40’s: Worry less about what people think of you; learn more about them.
In your 70’s: Worry zero about it; learn even more.
In your 40’s: You and your partner know your ritual arguments so well, you can have them in a tenth of the time.
In your 70’s: You know them so well that you don’t have to have them at all.
In your 40’s: You know that “nice” isn’t a sufficient quality for a friendship, but it’s a necessary one.
In your 70’s: Now, it’s sufficient.
In your 40’s: You don’t want to be with the cool people; you want to be with your people
In your 70’s: You are willing to be with anyone who is still breathing.
In your 40’s: Never accept a lunch invitation from people you don’t want to have lunch with. They will be much less disappointed than you think.
In your 70’s: Never do anything you don’t want to do.
In your 40’s: What’s adorable at twenty can be worrisome at thirty and dangerous at forty.
In your 70’s: It’s forgiven.
In your 40’s: There are no grownups
In your 70’s: There still aren’t.
And to the 40-something from a 70-something: You’ll be writing “What You Learn in Your 70s” sooner than you think. Enjoy the voyage.