I read just about anything on the subject of worry. I know that I worry too much. I know it is completely counter-productive. I know how good it feels when what I worried about didn’t happen. I know it is the things I don’t worry about that do happen. But I read on, looking for ways to stop worrying about worrying.
And just on the chance that you (dear reader) are also a worrier, I want to share some thoughts from The Wall Street Journal of 2/27/17. “Don’t Worry If You Always Worry (It May Help You)” suggests that worry is a form of problem-solving in advance that can be constructive. When it is, they call it “adaptive worry”.
However, there are the people who worry all the time, whom they call “chronic” worriers. And if those chronic worriers’ ability to function is affected by their excessive worrying, they are called “pathological” worriers. “Chronic worriers don’t have any confidence that anything they come up with is going to work, so they…keep worrying,” says Dr. Graham Davey, emeritus professor of psychology at the University of Sussex, in England, who studies worrying.
So I have decided to try to be an adaptive worrier, solving all my problems in advance. Alternatively, I can take Dr. Davey’s suggestion to set a timer for fifteen minutes, worry like crazy about something, and then stop.
For more see http://on.wsj.com/2lsTlxX